I work with a lot of people in the community of chemical abuse and alcohol recovery. When they tell me they don't want to be alone...and looking for a relationship...I always say "if you don't want to be alone with you... why would anyone else want to be alone with you" Then if they say 'I want someone who likes me for me...' then I say: "Well if you want someone to like you for you... you better BE YOU when you're with them!" It's not complicated, Be The One you want to be with. Self care self love is WAAAAAY DIFFERENT FROM SELF OBSESSION! Be kind and Be Caring...and Be Yourself most importantly. Be considerate and be of service. Love is an action. Okay that's all i know right now.